I often speak to people from a wide variety of backgrounds who struggle to achieve what they really want in life, and one common question that I hear repeatedly is why? Why am I not getting the results I expect? Why are my colleagues doing better than me? Why are they so lucky? Why, why, why?
There could be many different answers depending on your context, but very rarely is the why question the best place to start.
It is not about why, but how. How can you achieve rather than why aren’t you. How are others getting better results? How can I learn from them? Then I tend to hear, “Well Ian, how do I do that? That is just how I am. How can I adapt my mind to think differently?”
Simple, you retrain it.